Sunday, September 24, 2017

Twelve Year Reflections

Hi Friends,

It was twelve years ago today that I created this blog. I had a collection of spanking stories that I wanted to share and I thought this might be a good medium for that. It was all that and much more.

I don’t post often these days, but this blog is still a part of our lives. On this occasion, I want to express my humble gratitude to everyone who has supported this blog and this community over all these years.

Just for fun, I’d like to share my five all time most popular posts:
  1. Fifty Reasons to Spank Your Wife or Girlfriend (2007)

  2. Bonnie’s Top Twenty Spanking Positions (2005)

  3. In with the New Annual Edition (2015)

  4. Spanking 101: Rituals (2006)

  5. Spanking 101: Your First Spanking (2006)
I like these but they aren’t necessarily my favorites. Here are some old memories that I’d like to share.
  1. Spanking 101: Peeling Back the Labels (2005)

  2. Our Very First Spanking (2005)

  3. Story: The Sphere (2005)

  4. Keyword Chaos (2007)

  5. World Spanking Championship (2006)
I hope you enjoy these posts!

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

This and That: A Late Summer Update


Hi Everyone!  I hope you've had a wonderful summer with all the spankings that were needed.  We've been busy with a million small details.  But we've enjoyed some fun times too (rubs bottom).

Our MBS blogroll has expanded to include over 900 links.  There's a whole lot of spanking going on out there and people are writing about it and posting pictures.  Some readers lamented when it seemed that text-oriented Blogger and Wordpress blogs (typically published by women) were being overrun by more visual Tumblr blogs (more often published by men).  However, nothing on the internet lasts forever.  The big action today is on Twitter.  Spankos in this medium post both words and pictures and seem to be fairly evenly split by gender and role.  Many recent additions to the blogroll reflect this evolving reality.

As always, if you come across a spanking blog that belongs in our blogroll, please send me the link.

As seldom as I post these days, I still miraculously get mail.  It seems that people have been rummaging through my archive.  That makes me happy.  Anyhow, one reader asked me the eternal question, "Do you really let your husband spank you with a paddle?"  Yes, Libby, I really do fully consent.  In fact, I want him to spank me because it brings us closer and renews the bond between us.  I understand that many people find this concept inconceivable, and they are, of course, free to believe as they choose.  But for Randy and me, regular spankings are the centerpiece of our intimate relationship.

Next month, this blog will celebrate its twelfth anniversary and I will celebrate a milestone birthday.  I have yet to come to terms with becoming a senior citizen, but I'm working on it.  Those birthday spankings take a very long time anymore!  But we'll get though it somehow.  :)

Here on the home front, my dear Prince Charming is still exploring and experimenting with different spanking variations.  You'd think we might have exhausted the possibilities by now, but not so.  His current interest is in corporal punishment scenarios, which I love of course.  I used to think I hated the cane, but no more.  Recently, I admired the ridges on my bottom using my fingers while in corner time and earned myself an OTK session with the brush.  Then it was back to the corner again for contemplation and photographs.  Good times!

Let me conclude with a quote for the day, from the movie Loaded Weapon 1:

"I'm just a gal like any other gal.  I want a home, a family, an occasional spanking." - Miss Destiny Demeanor

Sunday, August 13, 2017

Exploring the Maze



The spanko mind is an interesting place, filled with layers of paradox and contradiction.  When viewed through the proper lens, pain can heal and confinement can liberate.  So it is with me.

On Friday evening, Randy and I were settling into what I perceived to be our familiar weekly OTK spanking session.  My skirt was around my waist and my panties were around my knees as he rhythmically slapped my bottom with a small leather paddle.  This spot over his lap on the edge of the bed was comfortable, other than the expected posterior distress, and even that was quite tolerable.

Then everything changed.  "I've got an idea," he announced.  "Let's go to the basement."  Instantly, I grasped his meaning.  Our spanking bench is set up down there because, well, there just isn't any other place for it.  This spanking would not be our regular Friday blue plate special.  I mentally prepared myself for a far different experience.  I wasn't sure what form it would take, but I knew that it would be memorable.

We walked down two flights of stairs to our rumpus room.  Randy told me to keep my skirt raised, so I did.  Those sorts of commands help to get me into the right headspace for a big session.  Feeling the cool air against my already tingling bottom awoke the butterflies within me.

Arriving before the bench, he immediately guided me down onto it.  As I lay on my stomach, he strapped my wrists and ankles into the attached velcro cuffs.  My legs were apart and my stinging bottom was on full display. From this moment forward, he would make all of the decisions.

Randy then disappeared for several minutes.  I heard him climb the steps.  I had plenty of time of ponder his next move and my own fate.  As tightly secured as I was, I couldn't do anything else.  I decided he must be planning a hard spanking.  That would be OK I thought.

When he returned, I saw through the corner of my eye that he was carrying something, but I couldn't determine what it was.  I would soon find out.  I gasped when a well lubricated plug slowly penetrated me.  It wasn't painful, but it was unnerving.  No sooner had I resigned myself to this intrusion into my very personal space, I felt the first sizzling flicks of a crop dancing in rapid fire fashion all over my upturned bottom.  A crop is designed to gain the attention of a large animal with a thick hide.  I am but a small animal and despite years decades of deliberate percussive toughening, my skin remains sensitive.  Those snaps really hurt and I told him so.  His nonverbal response was to increase both the pace and the intensity.

"You like spankings," he reminded me.  "At least that's what you tell your readers."  OK, I did say that and it is true in the abstract and I knew I'd like this one too as soon as it ended.  But in that moment, I was getting way more spanking than I wanted.  I mean, ow!

When he paused, I caught my breath and wondered what sort of pain stick he planned to apply to my seat next.  Wrong again.  He still had that equestrian whip, but he augmented it now with a buzzing vibrator.  He resumed swatting with one hand while he stimulated with the other.  It didn't take very long before I lost any remaining semblance of control.  Perhaps it was best that we were in the basement because I know I became quite vocal.  Even though spankings hurt a lot, they are almost always a definite turn-on for me.  All it took was a bit of buzz to send me sailing into the stratosphere.

I recall regaining my wits to the sharp sound of Randy still cracking my bottom with the crop.  This was not so vigorous as before, but he maintained a steady pace.  By this point, my bottom was hot and stinging all over, but I really didn't mind.

I pulled briefly against each of the restraints just to learn whether I was still locked in.  I definitely was.  I was completely restrained by my husband and my body was his to enjoy as he desired.  That thought, along with the sensation of a plug up my butt, made me feel very submissive.  I was his possession and that is precisely who and what I wished to be just then.  I didn't have to be strong.  I didn't have to choose.

I trust my husband with my heart, with my body, and with my life.  This experience renewed that trust in way that words cannot.  It's a funny juxtaposition that I felt completely safe and content in this situation that others might perceive as dangerous.  Maybe that makes sense, at least to me, in a spanko way.

Sometime after this, Randy found his satisfaction with me still tightly secured to the bench.  He gripped two ample handfuls of my well-punished flesh as he drove deep.  His thrusts felt wonderful as the entire bench rocked beneath me.  It occurred to me that we once broke a coffee table under similar circumstances.  I hoped the bench would survive because I truly enjoy the places I can go while strapped to it.

Next, he walked around me clicking photos of my predicament.   Evidence, I thought, of my latest spanking adventure.

Yes, the spanko mind is a remarkable place.  It's like a maze with a thousand corners, and I aim to stand with my sore, red bottom on display in every one of them!

Thursday, April 27, 2017

Learning Every Day


Not a day goes by when I don't acquire some useful new scrap of knowledge. For example, just last night, I discovered that, "Oh, goody," is not the expected response when Randy informs me that he intends to punish me.

Contrite as I may have been, briefly, for my unconscionable breach of protocol, I'll stand by my statement, if only because it's more comfortable than sitting.

This week marks the fortieth anniversary of our very first exploratory spanking. We've gotten better at it since then and we each now know exactly what the other likes. But we still have plenty left to learn, one swat at a time...

Saturday, April 22, 2017

How Not to Meet Women: Tip #587


I'm not sure how much play this story received outside of our region, but there is a moron who is now residing in the Spokane city jail after repeatedly assaulting women in a city park. In a televised confession, Jonathan Smith admitted that he was the "Spokane Spanker." His explanation was, "I saw women’s butts that I liked, and I slapped them for the thrill."

I find this story disturbing on four different levels. These assaults send a message to women that it's not safe for them to be alone in a public park. This is the antithesis of empowerment. Such incidents tend to make women feel fearful and dependent.

Smith said he was trying to be "daring and mischievous, but not malicious." A boyish prank perhaps. There's nothing endearing about sexual assault. We cannot dismiss such actions as a simple misunderstanding. I believe he was either blind to the harm his actions caused or just didn't care. Either way, the result is the same - his victims are shaken and he is incarcerated.

This episode offends me as a lifelong spanko. Spanking, for Randy and me, is a precious expression of our love that is every bit as intimate as coitus. Outside that context and without consent, a sexualized spanking is a profound violation. Our community of responsible, consenting, adult spanking enthusiasts is damaged when the larger public associates us with this sort of story.

The fourth and most unsettling aspect is the dehumanization of women. He referred to his victims in terms of "butts." In his eyes, these were not sentient people with feelings and rights, but rather a collection of body parts jogging down the trail solely for his entertainment. His "thrill" comes at the cost of devaluing someone else.

This story is not about spanking. I adore a good spanking, but there's nothing good here.

Guys, if you're still reading, the key is consent. Had this clown made the effort to talk with women (rather than strike them), he might have discovered interesting people with unique perspectives. And who knows? Under the right circumstances, one of them might be attracted to the idea of a real spanking.

TLDR; Don't be stupid

Sunday, February 19, 2017

Valentine

On the morning of Valentine's Day, I found this in my mailbox.

I love that man!

Friday, January 20, 2017

Keyword Chaos!

These are some of the search terms that people use to find this blog.

  • bonnie spanks – No, I don’t

  • build a better spanking – Now there’s a worthy project

  • butt sex love – How about butt sex OK if we must?

  • cheerleader paddled – The pleated skirt somehow attracts polished wood

  • greyhoundsowner – What does this look like, a dog blog?

  • hairbrush spanking – Ouch!

  • i want to spank her – OK, what does she want?

  • iwontbenice – Well, that’s quite an introduction

  • my bottom smarts tumblr – Are you kidding? I haven’t time to update this blog

  • paddled over jeans – We love our traditions

  • secret spanking – With all that racket, how secret can it be?

  • sound of spanking – Hello redness my old friend...

  • spank your partner – Allemande left and a dosey doe...

  • spanked with a cod – Gladys vowed to never again date a fisherman

  • spanking 101 the book – I’m waiting for Spanking 101: the Motion Picture

  • spanking in the shower – Water + bare bottom + bath brush = Good clean distress

  • spanking miss chris – I think that’s the other way around

  • spanking olympics – Let the competition begin

  • stress relief spanking – One of the necessities of life

  • tawse leather strap devil tail stingy bdsm discipline punishment – This is a very specific kink

  • theonlylivingboyinnewyork – Whaaaat?

  • wife cornertime – I’ve spent time in the wife corner